“Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” Proverbs 19:21
Happy Valentine’s Eve everyone! When I posted my last blog post on January 19, Grace and I were still staying at her parents’ house and our plan was to not move back home until I could chew again, which wouldn’t happen till my arch bar was removed. At that time, we were still working with Kaiser to set a date for that procedure, so we thought we had at least another two weeks with Grace’s parents. We ended up moving back to our apartment the next day.
Among the many obstacles Grace has to face every day are the lingering effects of her traumatic brain injury (TBI) which she picked up at the time of her accident. TBI comes in many shapes and forms, but since Grace’s is in her frontal lobe, her symptoms include difficulty with executive functions including planning, decision making, and emotional processing, among others. You can imagine how hard these past few weeks have been for her after my accident on December 15, when she had to care for her caregiver.
The morning of January 20 proved to be a turning point for Grace; as hard as her family had been working to care for both of us, Grace’s brain needed to return to her apartment, the place it was most familiar with and in which Grace could best function. This development took all of us by surprise, and required some problem-solving to figure out how to maintain my recovery diet now that we were in two locations. Grace’s family has continued doing everything they can to help us settle back into our “normal” pre-jawbreaking routine. Thank you guys!
It took Kaiser about another two weeks after our move to finally schedule my arch bar removal, which took place last Friday, February 7. I had originally opted for using anesthesia for the procedure, but ended up choosing the non-anesthesia route in order to gain three days of appointment scheduling. Looking back, I’d have stuck with the anesthesia option; but the procedure worked out, and I got to enjoy an In-N-Out double-double with grilled onions, mustard fried, with animal fries and a chocolate shake, the next day (I had to cut up the burger, but it turns out deconstructed In-N-Out is still amazing).
The days following my procedure were eventful, to say the least. On Saturday, Grace’s sister Anna got engaged to her now-fiancé Robert! We are so happy and excited for them and can’t wait for them to embark on this new chapter of life. Talk about a pre-Valentine’s Day surprise!
This past Monday my ENT doctor confirmed that my right ear canal is healed. Praise God! However, I have since developed multiple sores on my gums and tongue as a reaction to my arch bar removal. One of my maxillofacial doctors has prescribed a special mouthwash, so hopefully that will help, since the sores have actually prevented me from eating and talking normally.
They say life is a rollercoaster, and it feels like Grace and I just traversed a section of the track full of loops and drops and unexpected turns. But the final destination is more than worth it! Thank you all as always so much for your prayers and support. We mean that more every time we say it. God blesses us through you, and we continue to pray that God would use all of us to reflect His light into a world that needs it.
6 thoughts on “Beyond the Bite”
Aw God bless you, Ivan. I’m sorry for the sores. I know God will heal you. He’s proven that. Will continue to bring you and Grace before the throne. Keep looking up!
Praise the Lord for some progress. I know you still face many hurdles ahead of you but thankful for your positive attitude. You have had more than your share of trials but keep your eyes on Jesus. We still pray for your complete healing and for Grace as she faces many health issues.
Hi Ivan and Grace,
It gave all of us so much joy to see you with that meal! I’m sure it tasted just as good in pieces, and it sure beats having to put it in the blender! God bless you for your faithfulness, both of your families’ faithfulness, and the glory goes to Him, because He is the source of that kind of strength and patience.
God certainly blesses me through you two!
Oh dear brother Ivan. What a journey and how your faith continues to shine through you through so much pain and trouble. I am grateful you are through so much, but will pray for healing of those mouth sores and ongoing protection and mercy for you both. Much love to you both,
Two tough cookies found each other. Hooray.